Talk to your child about pressure
Conversation prompts and next steps if someone pressures or threatens your child online.
Start without demanding an explanation
Choose a time without interruptions. Try: If someone online asks you to keep something secret, you can always come to me. You do not need to know whether it is illegal before we get help. Then ask: Who could you turn to if I was not nearby?
If your child discloses something difficult
Say: Thank you for telling me. I want to help. Let your child speak in their own words and ask what worries them right now. Avoid blame or starting with why they replied or sent something. Responsibility lies with the person applying pressure or committing abuse.
Look for signs of pressure
Discuss demands for secrecy, repeated requests after a refusal, intimate questions, conditional gifts and threats. One message or a change in behaviour does not prove grooming. A child can seek help even if they care about the person or are unsure.
Take the next step together
Stop contact and do not pay or send more. Note usernames, links and times, and ask police how to preserve evidence. Do not share intimate images in parent groups, emails or AI tools. In Denmark, contact police on 114 about threats or sexual extortion; call 112 for immediate danger.
Agree what happens next
Explain who you will contact and why. Agree a trusted adult to stay with your child and when you will talk again. Ask about school and friends too. Contact SletDet for advice and seek further support if your child remains affected. The first conversation does not have to solve everything.